Soulmates

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Soulmates

Life is a long, lonely journey punctuated by all-too-brief interludes of something more precious than we might realize: other people. Life has a lot to celebrate on its own, but it is the company of those special to us that give life its brilliant colours, beautiful sounds and exquisite flavours. Life is simply better when shared.

How sweet it is to share a funny story with our friends. How lovely it is to share a beautiful sunset with a lover’s arm around us. Everything becomes sweeter and more exciting when we get to share it with people we like and respect and care about. They are what make life worth living.

Sometimes we get lucky. More than lucky, it’s enough to almost believe in fate or divine intervention. There are those unique, rare, breathtaking instances when someone comes along who is – more.soulmates-on-fire

Soulmates.

Sometimes we feel like the world is against us. We get beaten down by the competition and selfishness of others. A stranger carelessly getting in our way, another petty person at the office saying bad things behind our backs. Or it feels like everyone else is happy and winning at life, but not us. Soulmates give us the strength to stand up and try again, to endure, to fight back. They help us believe that our success is still possible.

Sometimes we feel worthless. We can’t seem to do anything right. Everything seems to go wrong no matter how hard we try. It’s one failure after another, one more stroke of bad luck in a seemingly endless string of ill fortune. Soulmates give us reason to believe in ourselves and feel like we’re worth success, that we even deserve it. Their support gives us reason to hope.

Sometimes we stop loving ourselves. It feels like no-one out there cares about us. We turn on ourselves, hate ourselves, blame ourselves, convince ourselves that we’re losers and deserve the worst that life can throw our way. When we feel most alone and helpless, when we have given up on ourselves, it the enduring, immutable, constant love of our soulmates that encourages us to love ourselves again. They never give up on us, no matter what.

But all of that is only what we receive. Soulmates also do something even more magical. They inspire us to become better people. They inspire us to give, to help, to sacrifice – to love.

They give us someone worth sharing every funny story and every beautiful sunset with. They give us someone worth helping when they feel down and we want to help. They give us someone to support when life gets hard and we want to support them. They give us someone to love with every fibre of our being, giving us noble purpose and fulfillment, and we want to love them.

They are the best of friends, connecting with us on levels beyond all others. They are also the most intimate of lovers, bringing forth passions within us that we never before knew existed. We feel safe with them. We fear no embarrassment. We feel absolutely free to be who we really are with them because we know that they accept us more fully than anyone else does. They are the perfect partner, complimenting us, raising us higher, inspiring us. And when life is shared with them, the experience ascends to a level more sublime and heavenly.

Some of us may never meet a soulmate. But I did.

It is because of you that I have grown so much more than I ever thought I would. You give me reason to. You give me reason to try harder. You give me reason to love more deeply. You give me reason to be more patient, to learn to listen, to care more, to really understand someone else. You give me true partnership, so that I will never be alone as long as I have you in my life.

You’re the reason why I know I can endure anything. Because I would endure anything for you.

You’re the reason why I never lose hope. Because you give me reason to hope for so many things.

You’re the reason why I believe in myself. Because you are beautiful and incredible in so many ways and if someone like you believes in me, then I can too.

You’ve taught me so much about myself. About relationships. About life. About love. I have become the person I am today because of you.

You’re the reason why I believe in soulmates.

And you’re the reason I want to be good enough to be yours.

 

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Song:
Really Slow Motion: One More Time

Lyrics:
The memories of you will always be
engraved within my heart.
It’s hard to say goodbye,
there’s only one last dream we left behind.
I’ll give you all my life and soul,
please hold me one more time.
Don’t be afraid to come with me
across the waves of time.

Find me in the night,
touch me with your soul,
hold me in your arms,
don’t let go.
Kiss me in the rain,
steal my breath away,
close your eyes and dream one more time.
Whisper to the stars,
sing this song for me,
let the ocean rise upon us,
come and fly away with me
to the rising light,
close your eyes and dream
one more time,
one more time with you.

Everywhere you’ll be, I’ll be there for you.

The Friendship Garden

Friendship Garden

This is my garden, which I call Friendship. It features all my friends, from my treasured inner circle to casual comrades. Its a spectacular event. I say event because gardens of any relationships are a constantly changing work of nature, part in, and part beyond, our control.

Some parts of the garden are old and deeply cherished, they form the core, the centerpieces. I spend most of my time here. Established and reliable, the old friends here require little maintenance but we must watch they aren’t taken for granted. They periodically feature exciting new growth which should be closely watched. When a friend flowers or sends out new shoots, we don’t want to miss it! They don’t want us too either.

When caring for our relationship with a friend, it is important to remember that we can never see an entire friend at once. To fully appreciate a friend, we must become aware of all their facets and dimensions. We must bear in mind the memory of our first impression, then step carefully around to enjoy other points of view. We can’t get stuck in the past, we have to watch how they grow and appreciate the friend for who they are ‘now’ as much as ‘then’, and think about what they’re becoming.

Most of all, we must try to see them the way they see themselves, and the way they see the world. This helps us understand them, which is vital for the relationship to have any real strength. It is also important to recognize that our relative position in relation to a friend will change because we are each always growing, always in motion, both independently and as a result of our relationship. The care we invest influences how we each grow.

Sometimes the friends of my garden are sunshine and smiles. Other times they are drooping down with sadness. The former need us, the latter need us even more, though they may not realize it at the time. The Garden of Friendship is something we must invest in on a regular basis. We must give it support and lend our strength. To do that, we must see ourselves as Gardeners. Being an active friend who invests in others must be part of our identity. When it is, we make decisions in our lives that naturally reinforce that identity and produce positive results based on it.

Be careful. Even our relationships with the friends closest to us will slowly die if abused or neglected. Many people make the mistake of spending all their time focused on themselves. Or in the Gardens of Love and Family. Don’t push Friendship to the back, don’t make it less important. Our lives require balance. Friendship has an important and vital place in a healthy lifestyle. Believe me, ignore your Garden of Friendship and it will shrivel up and all the relationships will die off. Many are unrecoverable. We are left lonelier and lesser for it. Starting a whole new garden again is very difficult.

Beyond the inner circle are other friends whom we don’t spend as much time with, but still value. Other friends in the garden are fresh and new. They are easily spoiled and that fragility demands delicate care if they are to grow into something splendid. Again, take heed. Spending all our time in any one part of the garden causes neglect in others. New friends are the most easily lost and therefore demanding. They can seem exciting, especially when we’re young and learning. But being a social butterfly always on the lookout for new additions to the garden can lead to core relationships going dry, or festering with a rot of resentment when investment in the relationship is going only one way for too long.

The center of the garden is usually the brightest and most lively. But even in the healthiest gardens there are darker corners and even unsightly sores on our favourite friends. We don’t like to visit these places much, once they appear. We try to convince ourselves these blights don’t exist by lying to ourselves or avoiding them and hoping they clear up on their own. They won’t. In these places our relationships have become infested with diseases like Guilt, Jealousy, the Sense of Inferiority, Competition and it’s partner Comparison, and worst of all – Selfishness. Left unchecked, they will only worsen, poisoning the friend, and ourselves.

We can rid ourselves of the darker spots. This garden has no walls, no insurmountable obstacles and there are no limits. The only barriers to the beauty, support and mutual growth here are the limits we place on our own perception and action. This may be due to our naiveté, inexperience, prejudice, or lack of faith. It may be because we’re lacking in the skills needed to maintain our garden, but these are mastered with practice and study. Many diseases tend to sprout from our own weaknesses and mistakes. These are correctable. Curing diseases comes from being willing to face them and ourselves honestly. Communication is key. Follow it with action.

Like it or not, the past has an effect on the present. Salt water, like that of tears, can damage the soil and make it harder for friendships to thrive. Sometimes a friend is gone forever. Lucky for us though, if we are diligently strong we can remove the old and start fresh. We can revitalize the foundations of growth. When old relationships pass on, new ones can be formed.

It is always hard to start again after so much effort was put into previous growth, but we mustn’t let that stop us, we must embrace the thrill of challenge. It takes a brave heart to plant new seeds of friendship and give love all over again, to put faith in the relationship and give it trust in the wake of tragedy. But we have, hopefully, wisdom gained from past mistakes to help. Vary the conditions, perhaps it needs more nourishment, perhaps it needs more independence, but the first place we should always look for improvement is with ourselves. It’s always the first and wisest investment and it pays off for everyone.

Everyone’s garden is different. Some are larger than others, and all overlap other gardens to varying degrees. Some are healthy and brim with beautiful, vigorous style. Some gardeners seek only the company of a few seemingly un-noteworthy yet hardy individuals and have relationships that, for a long while, struggled to survive, but have now established themselves and can never die. Sometimes the soil is naturally lush and almost anything will grow well. Sometimes it takes a very special species to take root.

Whatever the case, our Gardens of Friendship undoubtably make life brighter and more interesting. They’re worth our time. Budgeting a significant portion of our time with our friends leads to happier, healthier, more productive lives in all areas. Who knows when we’ll want a friend for support at a crucial moment? Who knows what new opportunities a friend might pass along? And then there’s the sheer joy of simply being there for our friends. Investment is its own reward.

Neglect your Garden of Friendship at your peril. The next time you find yourself near your own garden, step inside for a bit. If you’ve been away a long time, your Garden of Friendship is probably in need of you. Say hi to your favorites and approach the ones you haven’t spent much time with recently. Let them know that you still care, that you’re still here for them and that they’re important to you. See if a little attention can open up a new flower bud. Watch it bloom and see the beauty inside. Every flower is unique. So is every friend.

Our relationships nurture us as much as we share with them. The fruits they produce are amongst the sweetest to be tasted and the wisdom to be harvested is priceless. Also remember, as others have planted roots in your garden, you no doubt have planted roots in theirs. Never forget your roots.

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We Need To Understand Christmas Better

by Timothy Baril

Happy Holidays Christmas village at night

Sometimes - in scripted text Christmas isn’t always the stuff of dreams. Sometimes it falls rather short of our hopes.

Santa and reindeer looking in window at a happy family

Maybe we’re without loved ones, or far from them this year. Maybe we’ve lost friends, or moved to a new city and don’t know anyone yet, or for whatever reason, just feel really alone this Christmas. Can you imagine what it’s like to wake up Christmas morning and have nothing under the tree? No one to share Christmas dinner with? It’s a heartbreaking feeling.

Lonely at Christmas in winter

Yet, not all Christmases were like this for us in the past. We know how good they can be, which is why, when a bad year comes around, it makes us appreciate just how good the holidays can be. A sad or lonely end to the year makes one reflect on the true meaning of Christmas. It’s an understanding that’s lost to so many of us, a holiday we sometimes take for granted.

Christmas SucksI hate Christmas, grumpy cat

People often become too burned out from their daily lives, or overwhelmed by the demands of daily life which have nothing to do with Christmas. It’s easy for them to set aside this time of year and forget about it, or get negative about the holiday, especially when it gets too commercial. Or, we often just glaze over it, going through the motions without much reflection.

A lot of people grow out of childhood and think that Christmas loses it’s magic, it’s appeal.  It’s just not ‘fun’ anymore. They think, Christmas used to be all about the excitement of getting presents, but when you’re old enough to buy things for yourself, the magic fades. This is all tragic, because it all happens when we simply fail to understand why Christmas is really the best time of the year.

The - calligraphy text true meaning of the holiday season makes Christmas so special and enduring, universal and timeless; makes it something we should never forget. We need to pull ourselves back from the commercialization and shopping, set aside the bustle of daily life, and focus on something more important.

The meaning of Christmas is this: Christmas is about the Appreciation of Other People. Goodwill towards man; gestures of love and peace; presents and Christmas cards; charity donations; family gatherings; and Christmas parties – they’re all just a variety of different ways for us to say Thank You to each other. To say I Love You. The greater joy of the holiday comes from giving, not receiving.

Santa hugging little boy at Christmas at night.It’s saying, I just want to take a little time to show you how much you mean to me, and how much I appreciate you. I want to thank you for the time you’ve given me by taking a little of my time and giving back to you.

You know how hearing all that from other people makes us feel amazing inside? That’s how we can make everyone else feel! Isn’t that wonderful? What an amazing opportunity that is.

How do we give back? It might be by inviting people to a holiday event, and by accepting invitations to another’s event. Hosting, or attending, a Christmas party is a way of saying, I value you, and I want to spend the most precious time of the year with you. I want to celebrate our relationship, our friendship, our bonds, by being together at this special time.

Classic Christmas party art illustration of a couple with food and drinksNow, we might see each other many times throughout the year, but at Christmas, the entire spirit of the season’s gatherings and exchanges are not just about having fun, or getting drunk or the food, or the games or any peripheral things. It’s foremost about people and relationships. It’s about giving of ourself.

People in calligraphy text often go shopping at Christmas like it’s some kind of chore. Or, recently, it’s become the fashion not to shop at all, not to give presents to very many friends or to donate to charities. People latch on to some excuse about not wanting to buy into the commercialism or they hate the crowds but that’s not really true, is it? It’s laziness. It’s a failure to properly value each other. It’s the very reason Christmas was created, and is needed – to battle very hopelessness and depression and negativity that routinely builds up inside us.

Wrapped Christmas gifts and presents under the tree.A present is not just a present. When we give someone a present, it’s more than just picking some random thing up at the store, and going through the motions of a traditional exchange of things, this time with wrapping paper over them. A present has meaning. Do not give it lightly! It’s a symbol of our respect, friendship, family bonds, love and affection. We could write on the face of it: “Here, I thought of you, and I wanted to make you happy. I hope this present does just that. I hope it gives you a smile, or makes your life just a little easier, or a little nicer. I appreciate you.”

The more someone means to us, perhaps the bigger or more expensive the gift, or, better, the more thoughtful. We can spend a fortune on the biggest, most expensive gift, but if doesn’t say anything about our relationship, or does nothing to make the recipient happy, it’s a waste.

Let’s take a moment to think about our choices this year. Think about each one of our friends and family. Are we planning to get each one a gift? If so – great! If not, why? Don’t we appreciate them being in our life? Will we show our gratitude another way? Will we invite them to spend time with us? Will we plan something together? Will we call them up for no more reason than to say thank you and Merry Christmas? Snow covered pine spruce tree in winter at Christmas.

Or are we not planning to make a special effort for the people in our life this year? Why? Are they not worth it? Not good people? Then why are they in our life? Or, what does it say about us that we aren’t the type of person to give back to those who have given of themselves to us? What type of person are we that we don’t give first, but wait for others to give something to us before we respond? Let’s think about how we’ve been this year and ask ourselves, is this who we want to be? Are we being good family, a good spouse, lover, or friend?

So many gifts are a waste. When people say “It’s the thought that counts.” they’re right. We love being thought about. We love that someone cared enough about us to put thought into a gift, put their love and energy and time into it. They only do that when they value us, and we love being valued.

It’s very easy for a lot of people to give gifts without putting any thought into it at all, and these gifts are a waste. And, it’s becoming increasingly common to not give a gift at all. Either we’re giving gifts to the wrong people, or we must be pretty hollow individuals if there’s no one we really value in our lives. How heartless we are! How unappreciative of everything that people do for us. Why, we don’t even realize what they’re doing for us. We’re taking them for granted. Admit it, we’re all guilty of taking a few of the people in our lives for granted.

Putting thought into a gift means putting thought into a relationship. Selecting a present is a time to reflect on how good of a friend or family member we’ve been to others, how good of one they have been to us, and all the good ways we’ve been there for each other over the year. How many laughs have we shared, how many times have we used each other’s shoulders as support or to cry on? Were we there for each other’s birthday’s, for a wedding, the birth of a child? How many heartfelt compliments were exchanged, how many deep conversations, how many hugs and handshakes? All that reflection, on ourselves and on them and our relationships, goes into each present. That’s what makes a present so special. That’s why we should be overflowing with desire to give them, and why we should be moved and humbled to receive them. Opening Christmas gift present and experiencing magic

It’s not always financially possible to buy presents for everyone we want to, or ought to. Though it’s become out of fashion, it’s perfectly acceptable to make a present as well. Bake some cookies, draw a picture, make a song. If we’ve got a talent, it doesn’t have to be perfect, but using it to say Merry Christmas as a gift to another is touching and charming. Put something of ourself into our gifts, for that’s what people really want.

Christmas cards hanging on a string on the wallIt’s also perfectly nice to send a holiday card. Be careful it’s not another empty gesture, though. Just signing a name to a mass produced product is a waste, and shows no thought. A few honest, caring words, some specific details about our relationship in the past year, a desire to spend the future with that person, these show far deeper meaning. A card like that shows someone that they have value in our life.

Time in calligraphy text is the only true currency. Money and things are nothing more than physical representations of our time. Our time is very limited, and the only thing that’s truly priceless. How we spend it says so much about how much we value and appreciate each other. Be it in the form of giving a present; writing a card; singing a song; hosting a party; attending a dinner; traveling a long distance to be together; giving up something else to be with someone; or any other sacrifice or choice, these are all, in their most basic expression, gifts of time. How much time is spent on someone is the only true expression of our appreciation for their value and worth. It says as much about us, as it does about whom we give it to. A person who gives nothing does not appreciate anything. A person who gives everything, must truly have the warmest of hearts. What kind of person are we?

When we raise our children, we know how important it is to praise them when they do good. The older we get, the more that practice seems to disappear from our lives. We’ve developed work cultures that tell us not to expect praise, and that a salary should be enough for us. We take family for granted. We often don’t work to give back to our friends because in such a busy, increasingly connected world, an exciting new friendship is just around the corner, so we don’t make effort to maintain the ones we have.

Sexy Santa girls in Christmas costume with presentsYet, as adults, we’re just as busy making choices and learning and growing as when we were kids. We had parents and teachers to give us feedback then, and it gave us confidence and strength, affirmed us as good people, and this, in turn, breeds compassion and more growth. Maybe we forget, but we need all that praise and feedback just as much when we are adults. And just as importantly, it’s now our turn to start giving that feedback to others. Christmas is a time set aside for just that purpose.

We forget to show appreciation, or affirm the goodness of others, for much of the year. Birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, these are all small events when we should be giving back to each other. Christmas, however, is a wonderful time of year that lasts not a single day, but weeks. We shouldn’t complain that the Christmas season seems to start right on the heels of Halloween or Thanksgiving’s passing. We should be grateful for whatever excuse has extended the most compassionate time of the year for an even longer period. Just like the lyrics in so many songs, wishing for Christmas every day of the year.

Christmas is a magical time where we’ve all agreed that at this time we need to set aside everything else in life and really focus on what’s most important to us – each other. It’s a time for sitting down with family and saying “Thank you for everything you’ve done for me this past year!”Adorable and cute snowman couple at Christmas

For taking a friend by the hand and saying “Hey! You’re a great person. I believe in you. The way you do this and that is really special, and thank you for this, and I’m so sorry that happened to you but don’t lose hope, don’t lose faith in yourself, and let’s do our best to spend more time together in the future.”

Two happy little girls children hugging and smilingIt’s a time when we can walk up to each other and we don’t have to be shy or embarrassed or afraid to say “Here I am! I love you. I’m here for you. Lean on me. Ask me for help. I’m here – just here for you – whenever you need me.”

It’s a time of year when we take our partner’s hand and it’s not as much about romance and lust as other lover’s days are, it’s about all the times we were there to support each other and be a team and communicate and share life, to share time.

 

One in calligraphy scriptof the worst feelings we can have is to feel alone. And we can feel like that all the time. Even with a family, we might feel like they just don’t understand us, or argue too much with us. Even with a partner we can feel like a distance has grown between us and at the end of the day it’s just us against the world after all. That feeling can be a hundred times worse after a breakup. Even with friends it might feel like they never call, never invite us to anything, never make time for us, never come to our events, never buy us gifts, never seem to value us at all. We show up at the same parties, we hang out and watch movies together, but in the end, when push comes to shove and things get hard, or at the moments of our lives when we really need others, or moments are really special to us, it feels like no one is really there.

 

Lonely girl at Christmas art illustration from DeviantArtLife is busy. Really busy. And it’s not getting any less so. We work too much, we allow ourselves to take on too many obligations we don’t really want. We split ourselves up between too many casual friends and acquaintances, so we neglect to spend the right amount of time with the people who are closest to us, or should be. The people who give us the most, who help us grow the most, who make us happiest, we ignore in favour of some other distraction. We spread ourselves out with TV and cell phones and the internet, thinking we’re being social, but neglecting face time with each other. We get so excited about meeting someone new that we forget to appreciate those who we’ve shared so many good memories with already. Meeting new people can be a good learning process, but maintaining old relationships is a life affirming process.

Relationships are so important. They take away that loneliness we’re so prone to. They help give us confidence and self respect. Having friends and family let’s us know that there are others similar to us, or who approve of us, and by extension, that means we’re good people. It’s social confirmation that we’re making the right choices in life, at least more often than we’re making mistakes. It’s confirmation that we’ve got a good heart, that we’re valuable to other people. It’s confirmation that our lives have real meaning, beyond our own selfish desires and personal achievements. It shows that we’re creating value in the lives of other people.

Beautiful Christmas tree at night with lights under snow

The sheer number of people we know, or who casually call us friend, isn’t important. We can have a thousand people around us all the time, be a real social butterfly, but in the end, these relationships aren’t going to give our life meaning, and aren’t going to really affirm us as a person. It’s having long lasting, deep relationships, relationships we work to maintain, people we put effort and time into. These relationships are what really reflect on us as a person. By going out and showing our appreciation for others, it’s a way of saying, “Hey, the world is a better place because of you, and how you’re living your life, and I hope you keeping on being a part of my world for a long time to come.” That very expression will brighten the lives of everyone we touch. That is what makes the world a truly better place.

Having a tight circle of friends and family that really understand us, that we choose spend a lot of time with, and who choose us back, this really tells us what kind of person we are. And Christmas is the time of year when we set aside everything else that might have managed to get in the way the rest of the year, when we go out of our way to be together with those people, and show them all the love and appreciation that’s bursting in our hearts to give, and all that they deserve to receive.

Happy mother showing Christmas ball  to baby near Christmas tree

Don’t we want certain people to know just how lovable they are, how cute and funny, how cherished, how supportive, how cheerful, how amazing they’ve been this year? Don’t we want to reach down to those mired in sadness, loneliness or depression and raise them up by reminding them of how good they really are, and that we want them in our lives? Or how good they could be if they didn’t give up on themselves? Don’t we want to put smiles on face, joy in hearts?

Appreciation breeds humility and compassion and love in ourselves and others. Don’t we want to be a source of all that? Don’t we want to help encourage that in the people who matter most to us? Don’t we want to feel just a little bit like Santa for a while?

Cool Santa Claus at Christmas with sleigh and bag of presents
Art by Genzoman.

What more meaningful way could we possibly spend our time than to do all that for someone we like?

This in calligraphy script year, and every year after, when the holiday season is once again upon us, let’s remind ourselves of the true spirit of Christmas, and think about who means the most to us, and why. Then let’s go out and tell them, or far better yet – show them. Appreciation is so much more meaningful when shown with actions, not just words. Let’s celebrate with them, exchange presents, write cards, raise a glass, share a meal. Let’s take some of our time and give it to them. When we have given all of ourselves and more, then we’ll have become, to them, the kind of person we want in our own lives.

That is the magic of Christmas. That is what makes the world a better place.

Merry Christmas writing

(This article treats Christmas as a non-religious, universal, inclusive event.)

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This Is Why I Need You

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This is why I need you.

Every day I try to be the best person I can be. The reason I do that, is you.

I want to help you become the happiest, most successful person you can be. So I share my knowledge, look for ways to make you smile and laugh, and appreciate the many wonderful things about you, all the time.

Every day I work to become stronger, tougher, and wiser than before. So I can become better for you. So I can make the world a better place for you.

But I’m human and being all that, every day, can be a challenge. Because life isn’t easy. It wears at us. Sometimes it gets mean and beats us down and kicks dirt in our face. It gets hard to stand up and be ourselves. Sometimes, we just get tired.

I’m just like you. I get lonely. Sometimes a little, sometimes a lot. I have bad days and stressful days. Sick days and ugly days. There are times when I feel like everyone hates me, and times when I hate myself.

Some days I look in the mirror and I see nothing but wrinkles, features that are too big, and eyes that are such a boring colour. And I wonder where all this fat came from.

There are evenings I’ll sit by the phone and watch it refuse to ring all night long. And I wonder why no one wants me around.

There are days when I’ll look at my work, my chores, my art, my life and I’ll feel like a total failure. I won’t feel good enough.

And I’ll feel that way even though some part of me knows none of it is true. Six days out of seven maybe I do have faith in myself but on this day that faith is gone and self doubt gnaws on my heart until it’s only chewed ruins, bleeding hope.

That’s why I need you.

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I don’t mean need like a baby needs a parent, I’m not dependent on you. I can stand on my own. But I do need you like a teammate, a partner, because I’m interdependent with you. Alone I can survive even the worst of things. But life can be so much better than just scraping by. If you have someone to share it with.

I need your smile to help raise my own. I need your laughter to give me something to cheer about. I need your enthusiasm and your energy to brighten my spirits. I need your compliments to bolster my self esteem, your caring words to heal my wounds. I need your beauty to make me excited about the world.

I need you to ask about my day, to ask about my feelings, the way I ask about yours. I need you to want to spend time with me, the way I want to spend time with you. I need you to just call me for no reason and be silly with me and invite me to dinner and ask me to build something or make something or design something for you just because you know I can and it gives me a chance to prove myself to you, prove what I can do, prove who I am. Because when you do that, I don’t feel like a loser or a failure, I feel like a good person.

I believe in you. And I need you to believe in me, because it reminds me to believe in myself.

I like being needed by you. It gives my life purpose and meaning. I feel like I have value. I want you to know that for all the wonderful ways you choose to share our time, I value you too. You’re important to me.

Life is a whole lot better when you’re in it with me.

This is why I need you.

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The Best Relationships

Wisdom and Quotes - Inspiration and Motivation-233

The best relationship is when your lover is also your best friend. You can be yourself with them, and they still love you for who you are.

最高の関係とは、あなたの恋人が親友でもある関係だ。あなたがあなたである事を愛してくれる人達との関係だ。

 

Wisdom and Quotes - Inspiration and Motivation-233

This poster was originally created for English as a Second Language (ESL) learning tool for students in Japan. The kanji characters included are Japanese. I’ve put them online so that others may share them as well. I hope this wisdom will be both inspiration and motivation for you, as well as teachers and students around the world. Enjoy and share!