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Life is impermanent. Wind blown chaos of feelings and experiences, a maelstrom of sights and sounds, followed by bleak stillness, forever silent, nothingness. Birth gives us one chance to explore the universe. Death gives us perspective. It holds a mirror up to our lives in judgement. What matters; what does not? Who matters; who does not? The currency of time is finite and what little we possess relentlessly slips through our unappreciative figures. Only when it is all but gone do we become desperate and learn to value it. Only in looking back when there is no more to look forward to, do we realize the errors of our ways and the foolishness of our decisions. Even as we run out of time, we gain regrets in equal measure. Bodies aching and failing, hearing dimming and eyes going dark, no one yearns for more material things, wishes a life spent more on ultimately empty, selfish pursuits. Withered fingers tremble with fear at the final unknown and find solace and courage only in loving embrace returned. A lifetime hunting treasures. Status gained, a delusion. Gold made cannot smile back. Only true love is truly precious. In the final tally, only how much we have loved defines our worth. Only the love we’ve given gives others reason to be by our side when we breathe our final breath. Only real love ensures that we will never be alone. Not even when we’re gone. A life of real, honest loving is the only worthwhile way to live.

Red Love 愛, Beauty 美, Courage 勇気  and Respect 尊敬, Romantic Love 恋愛, “I Love You”, Passion 情熱 Red (Dark), Deep Burgundy Unconscious beauty 無意識の美 Red (Single) (一つ) “I Love You” White Purity 清らかさ, Innocence 純粋さ, Silence 沈黙, Secrecy 秘密, Reverence 尊敬に満ちた, Humility 謙虚, Youthfulness 若々しい White (Bridal)  (結婚式) Happy love 幸せな愛 Pink Appreciation 感謝, “Thank you”, Grace 優雅さ, Perfect Happiness 完璧な幸せ, Admiration 賞賛, Gentleness 優しさ Yellow Joy 幸福, Friendship 友情, Delight 喜び, Promise of a new beginning 新しい始まりの約束, Welcome Back お帰り Yellow with Red Tip Friendship 友情, Falling in Love 恋に落ちる Red and White Given together, these signify unity 統一 Red and Yellow Jovial and Happy Feelings 陽気で幸せな感情 Peach Appreciation 感謝, Closing the deal , Let’s get together , Sincerity 誠実さ, Gratitude 感謝 Pale Peach Modesty 謙虚 Lavender, Purple Love at first sight 一目惚れ, Enchantment (magical) 魔法 Orange Enthusiasm 熱狂, Desire 欲望, Fascination 魅惑 Black Death 死, Farewell 別れ Blue The unattainable 手に入れられない, the impossible 不可能な Single 一つの - any color Simplicity 単純さ, Gratitude 感謝 Red Rosebud ばらのつぼみ Symbolic of purity 清らかさ  and loveliness きれいな White Rosebud ばらのつぼみ Symbolic of girlhood 女の子の子供時代 Thorn-less Rose とげのないばら Love at first sight 一目惚れ   Roses by the Numbers A single (1) rose of any color depicts utmost devotion – 一番の熱愛 Two (2) roses entwined together communicate “Marry me” – 結婚して Six (6) Roses signify a need to be loved or cherished – 愛されることが必要 Eleven (11) roses assure the recipient they are truly and                                                            deeply loved – あなたは愛されている Twelve (12) roses mean let’s be a couple – 恋人になりたい Thirteen(13) roses indicate a secret admirer – 秘密の賞賛者

This is my garden, which I call Friendship. It features all my friends, from my treasured inner circle to casual comrades. Its a spectacular event. I say event because gardens of any relationships are a constantly changing work of nature, part in, and part beyond, our control. Some parts of the garden are old and deeply cherished, they form the core, the centerpieces. I spend most of my time here. Established and reliable, the old friends here require little maintenance but we must watch they aren’t taken for granted. They periodically feature exciting new growth which should be closely watched. When a friend flowers or sends out new shoots, we don’t want to miss it! They don’t want us too either. When caring for our relationship with a friend, it is important to remember that we can never see an entire friend at once. To fully appreciate a friend, we must become aware of all their facets and dimensions. We must bear in mind the memory of our first impression, then step carefully around to enjoy other points of view. We can’t get stuck in the past, we have to watch how they grow and appreciate the friend for who they are ‘now’ as much as ‘then’, and think about what they’re becoming. Most of all, we must try to see them the way they see themselves, and the way they see the world. This helps us understand them, which is vital for the relationship to have any real strength. It is also important to recognize that our relative position in relation to a friend will change because we are each always growing, always in motion, both independently and as a result of our relationship. The care we invest influences how we each grow. Sometimes the friends of my garden are sunshine and smiles. Other times they are drooping down with sadness. The former need us, the latter need us even more, though they may not realize it at the time. The Garden of Friendship is something we must invest in on a regular basis. We must give it support and lend our strength. To do that, we must see ourselves as Gardeners. Being an active friend who invests in others must be part of our identity. When it is, we make decisions in our lives that naturally reinforce that identity and produce positive results based on it. Be careful. Even our relationships with the friends closest to us will slowly die if abused or neglected. Many people make the mistake of spending all their time focused on themselves. Or in the Gardens of Love and Family. Don’t push Friendship to the back, don’t make it less important. Our lives require balance. Friendship has an important and vital place in a healthy lifestyle. Believe me, ignore your Garden of Friendship and it will shrivel up and all the relationships will die off. Many are unrecoverable. We are left lonelier and lesser for it. Starting a whole new garden again is very difficult. Beyond the inner circle are other friends whom we don’t spend as much time with, but still value. Other friends in the garden are fresh and new. They are easily spoiled and that fragility demands delicate care if they are to grow into something splendid. Again, take heed. Spending all our time in any one part of the garden causes neglect in others. New friends are the most easily lost and therefore demanding. They can seem exciting, especially when we’re young and learning. But being a social butterfly always on the lookout for new additions to the garden can lead to core relationships going dry, or festering with a rot of resentment when investment in the relationship is going only one way for too long. The center of the garden is usually the brightest and most lively. But even in the healthiest gardens there are darker corners and even unsightly sores on our favourite friends. We don’t like to visit these places much, once they appear. We try to convince ourselves these blights don’t exist by lying to ourselves or avoiding them and hoping they clear up on their own. They won’t. In these places our relationships have become infested with diseases like Guilt, Jealousy, the Sense of Inferiority, Competition and it’s partner Comparison, and worst of all – Selfishness. Left unchecked, they will only worsen, poisoning the friend, and ourselves. We can rid ourselves of the darker spots. This garden has no walls, no insurmountable obstacles and there are no limits. The only barriers to the beauty, support and mutual growth here are the limits we place on our own perception and action. This may be due to our naiveté, inexperience, prejudice, or lack of faith. It may be because we’re lacking in the skills needed to maintain our garden, but these are mastered with practice and study. Many diseases tend to sprout from our own weaknesses and mistakes. These are correctable. Curing diseases comes from being willing to face them and ourselves honestly. Communication is key. Follow it with action. Like it or not, the past has an effect on the present. Salt water, like that of tears, can damage the soil and make it harder for friendships to thrive. Sometimes a friend is gone forever. Lucky for us though, if we are diligently strong we can remove the old and start fresh. We can revitalize the foundations of growth. When old relationships pass on, new ones can be formed. It is always hard to start again after so much effort was put into previous growth, but we mustn’t let that stop us, we must embrace the thrill of challenge. It takes a brave heart to plant new seeds of friendship and give love all over again, to put faith in the relationship and give it trust in the wake of tragedy. But we have, hopefully, wisdom gained from past mistakes to help. Vary the conditions, perhaps it needs more nourishment, perhaps it needs more independence, […]

What is love? Oh, baby, don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more. Ha! Good luck getting that out of your head for the rest of the essay. Sorry, Haddaway on the brain when I wrote the title. Anyway… We all want to be loved by someone great. We also want to have someone to love who is worth loving. Experiencing both of these is a fundamental part of our emotional wellbeing. But we’re faced with a problem. Love isn’t easy and there doesn’t seem to be a blueprint to follow towards building a perfect relationship. (Believe me, I checked. The architect whose blueprint files I was snooping through yelled it at me as he threw me out of his office.) Our ignorance causes us so much anxiety because we know that we want this fantastic, beautiful ideal, and not knowing how to reach it is frustrating. We want love more than anything else in life, until the desire feels all-consuming, but we worry because if we don’t know how to get it, we can’t get it, and that’s just heartbreaking. Out of all the people in the world, who do we choose? And once we chosen someone, how do we make it work? Worry no longer because there’s hope. We may not have an exact blueprint for every relationship we might get into, but if we understand how the system operates, and how people work, then we can understand the bigger blueprint for Life and Love, and that will give us a huge advantage in dealing with our own personal experiences. To dig deeper, always begin with the golden question: Why? Why are romantic relationships so important to us? Why does practically every book and movie have a love story? Why does the romance genre dominate the book industry? Why is the net covered in sexy people putting huge, crazy things inside each other? Because mating is our purpose. Yes, life really is all about sex. Or, to be more specific, what sex is used to accomplish. Our purpose in life is to secure our genetic heritage in future generations. We live to create offspring and give them as many advantages as we can in order to improve their own chances of survival and successful reproduction. Literally, the biggest part of our lives is about finding the best match and having babies, then giving those babies all the good food and education and tools we can so that they can have an even easier job doing the same. That’s how our species continues to exist. It’s our method of operation. All the anxiety and worry we have about love and relationships is, not-so-deep down, about making the best partnership to produce the best offspring and the best conditions for their future success. It’s about mating. Most species go about this with far less fanfare. In Spring, it gets warm and there’s a rising urge to chase down members of the opposite sex, jump them and rut wildly. They don’t put much thought into it, they just go with their instincts. Equally, we treat the mating process of all other creatures with the same nonchalance. Spring comes around and we admire the way that the flowers of the peach tree scatter in the wind, and grumble as their pollen tickles our allergies. We don’t give any thought to the fact that we’re witnessing procreation at work. We don’t think about how, four months later, we’re biting into a peach that is really a baby, the product of two trees fucking. Technically, that peach used to be a sex organ. See a tree covered in flowers? That’s a tree with a hard-on and stiff nipples. Take a picture and you’ve just made tree porn. It’s no big deal to us. Life multiplies. We don’t think about out, it just happens. Except when it happens to us – that’s another story completely. We don’t care if two birds mating are going to produce the best children, we just admire the cute chicks. But with our own mating, we over-analyze it like crazy. Then we romanticize the hell out of it and call it Love. We build monuments to it, write libraries full of books about it, compose millions of songs to it, worry over it every waking moment of our youth. We turn mating into Love and frame it as an Ideal, and cherish it, and give it Innocence (for some weird reason). Then when it comes right down to the actual act, we guzzle a bunch of alcohol to give us an excuse to forget all the cultural frills and just get down to the good, fun business of fucking. Where does it all begin? One needs only look at kids and see how, at their earliest age, they’re vaguely aware of the mating process. Why else would a five year old boy get defensive if you ask him if he has a girlfriend? Why else would a six year old girl differentiate between male and female friends? Why do kids treat genders differently instead of treating everyone the same, at least before puberty? Because we are instinctively aware of the mating process and from the moment we’re born we spend our entire youth preparing for it. While this is a vague idea at best when we’re little kids, once puberty comes, awareness hits us like a freight train and all of a sudden gender differences and being with the opposite gender take on an entirely new perspective. It’s all we think about. Think back to your youth. Ah, remember the wild, heady days of young desire and the faint idea of love when you first began to experience it? Not, not you, you’re too young to wax nostalgically. I’m talking to older readers. People who have a few broken hearts and some perspective under their belt. Or in your pocket, or where-ever you keep important things like that. Remember how anxious we were about finding someone, even as just a […]

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English only version here. All of us want to be happy. But sometimes we lose hope, and it feels like the world and its problems are overwhelming. Being happy is easier and more simple than you realize. Here are a few pieces of advice to help guide you, so that you too can be happy. 幸せになりなさい。時には希望を失い世界中の問題に圧倒されるだろう。でも幸せになるという事は君達が思うより簡単でシンプルな事なんだ。君達も幸せになれ るように、ここで幸せになる手引きをしよう。 Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, because it doesn’t last forever. 若いという事を楽しみなさい、それは永遠には続かないから。 Don’t waste your entire youth in cram schools and studying too much. School is important, but too much isn’t going to help you become a better person. Spend time learning about other people, falling in love for the first time, trying new things and exercising your creativity. There is more to learn in life than what you find in textbooks. 若くある時間すべてを塾や勉強だけに無駄にしてはいけない。学校は大切だ、でもそればかりが君達を良い人間にするわけではない。他人について学ぶために時間 を使いなさい、恋に落ちるために時間を使いなさい、新しい事を試み、想像力を働かせる事に時間を費やしなさい。人生にはテキストブックの中に書かれた事より 、より多くの事を学ばなくてはいけないから。 Don’t worry too much about what school you get into. Don’t buy into the illusion that attending one school makes you a better person than  someone attending a different school. It doesn’t. All people are born equal. The most important differences between us are in our actions; not DNA, not family, not wealth, not political influence or anything else. One school is only better than another if it does a better job of  helping you learn. Competing for status is an empty goal. どの学校に進学するかについてあまり悩んではいけない。一つの学校に進学する事が他の学校に進学するより、良い人間になれるなんて幻想は信じてはいけない 。全ての人間は平等に生まれたのだから、一番大切なのは私達の起こす行動である。DNAではなく、家でもなく、お金でも政治の影響でもない。君達が学ぶ事を 助けるのが良い学校というものだ。ステータス競争は虚しいゴールでしかない。 Dream. Dreams are what challenge you and the world to have a better future. 夢を持ちなさい。夢が君達の挑戦を生み、世界により良い未来をつくる。 Don’t worry about the future. Worrying is as effective as trying to solve an math equation by chewing gum. It’s better to accept that the future is out of your control, but know that you can still work towards a better one. 将来を心配する事はない。心配は数式を解くためにガムを噛むくらい意味のない事だ。未来はコントロールできるものではないのだと、受け入れる方が良い。でも より良い未来の為に努力出来る事は知っておいた方がいい。 Sing. 歌いなさい。 Do one thing everyday that scares you. Maybe you’re afraid of speaking in public, or standing up to a bully, or just afraid of the dark. Fear can be conquered. 自分が恐れている事を毎日一つづつやってみること。君は人前で話す事を恐れているかもしれない、いじめっ子に立ち向かう事を恐れているかもしれないし、暗闇 を恐れているかもしれない。でも恐怖は乗り越える事ができる。 Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, and don’t put up with people who are careless with yours. 他人の心を踏みにじってはいけない。君達の心を踏みにじる人たちに我慢してもいけない。 Don’t waste your time being jealous about what you think other people have; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long, but in the end, it’s only with yourself. 他人が持っているものに嫉妬する事に時間を無駄にしてはいけない。時には君の方が先を歩いている事もあるし、時には君の方が後ろを歩いているかもしれない。 でもこのレースは長いし、最後には自分自身との競争なのだから。 Smile. As often as you possibly can. できるだけ多く笑いなさい。 Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; compliment others, don’t insult them, even behind their backs. 人から受ける賛辞を覚えておきなさい。中傷は忘れる事。他人を褒めること、中傷をしてはいけない。たとえその人がその場にいないときであっても。 Don’t smoke. Smoking kills, and second-hand smoke kills friends, family and co-workers. Science and medicine have proven that. タバコはやめなさい。体に悪いし、他の人にも悪い。それは科学的にも医学的にも既に証明されている。 Some people are selfish, some people are rude, but the first step towards more kindness in the world is to be kind to others first. 自分勝手な人もいるし、失礼な人もいるだろう。でも世界中の優しさの第一歩は他人に優しくなる事からはじまる。 You are not as fat as you imagine. In fact, you may be too thin. While you don’t want to be fat, being too thin is not sexy or healthy. 君が思うほど君は太ってはいないし、事実痩せ過ぎかもしれない。太りたくないと思っているけれど、痩せ過ぎは健康でも美しくもない。 Keep your old love letters, throw away your old income statements. 古いラブレターはとっておきなさい。収入証明書は捨てる事。 Be kind to your teeth. You’ll miss them when they’re gone. 歯を大切にしなさい。なくなる頃には寂しく思うから。 Don’t be afraid to do something just because you’re not good at it. Everyone was just as bad at some point, and sometimes that can be a lot more fun. You will get better over time. 苦手な事をやってみる事を恐れてはいけない。みんな最初はうまくいかないものたのだから。時にはそれが楽しいときもあるし、時間がたてばうまくできるように なる。 Hug.  抱きしめなさい。 Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t matter if you’re 16 or 40 and still confused, but if you don’t know, go out and try new things in order to find out. 自分が将来何をしたいかわからなくても心配することはない。16だろうが40だろうが年齢は関係ない。やりたい事がわからなければ新しい事をやってみればい い。 Don’t be afraid to reach out and offer to help others. They may be shy at first, but you never know just how much good you can do until you try. 他人を助ける事と、助けを求める事を恐れてはいけない。最初は恥ずかしいかもしれないけれど、やってみるまでそれがどれだけ良い結果を生むかわからないのだ から。 Drink milk, eat cheese, bok choy or even hot peppers, whatever you want, but get plenty of calcium for strong bones. 牛乳を飲みなさい、チーズを食べなさい、体菜か唐辛子を食べてもいい。食べたいものを食べればいい、でも強い骨を作るために沢山カルシウムをとりなさい。 There’s more to life than accepting someone else’s idea of what you should do with it. Find something you want to do passionately, something you believe in, that makes the world a better place, and gives your life meaning. 他人の理想を受け入れるよりも、もっと多くの事が人生にはある。情熱を持てる事を、自分が信じられる事を探しなさい。それが世界をより良い世界にし、人生に 意味を与えるから。 Exercise. It’s the most effective way to stay healthy, and be beautiful. Your body is the greatest instrument you’ll ever own. 運動をする事、それが健康と美に一番効果がある。君達自身の体は君達が持つ事のできる最高の楽器だから。 Finding the right person to share your life with means finding yourself first. Being alone is easy, but not being alone is easier than you think. 人生を分かち合いたいと思う人を見つけるという事は、まず自分を見つける事。一人になるのは簡単だけど、一人にならない事は君達が思うよりもっと簡単なこと 。 Dance. 踊りなさい。 Get to know your parents, they’ll be gone all too soon. Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future. 親の事をもっと知りなさい。彼らは早すぎるくらい早くいなくなってしまう。兄弟には親切になりなさい、彼らは君達の過去への繋がりで、将来もずっと一緒にい るだろう人達だから。 Understand that friends come and go, but for a precious few you should work to hold on to. Do not underestimate how important they are to your life. 友達は出会っては去っていくもの、でも一握りの大切な友達を手放してはいけない。彼らの存在の大切さを決して侮ってはいけない。 Take vacations. Visit new places, eat new food, try new things. Spend quality time with your family. Doing these things will make your life richer in ways more important than making money can. 休みをとりなさい、新しい場所を訪れ、新しいものを食べ、新しい事をしなさい。家族と大切な時間を過ごしなさい。これらの事はお金を稼ぐよりもっと多くの裕 福さを生むだろう。 Travel. There are unlimited ways to live life. See how people in other places are living their lives. Experiment with the way you live yours. 旅をしなさい。人生には限りなく沢山の生き方がある。他の場所で生きる人達の生き方をみて、自分の人生をどう生きるか実験してみなさい。 Being different isn’t a bad thing. But as different as we are on the outside, we all share the same basic experiences and emotions. Despite differences in gender, culture, social standing, wealth, language and clothing, we are inherently united in ways far more important. Being different doesn’t make you less normal, it just makes you a different kind of normal and that’s ok. Identity doesn’t come from what other people tell you that you should be. You can be anything you want. 他人と違う事は悪い事ではない。外見が違っても同じ感情と経験を分かち合っているのだから。性の違いや文化、社会性、貧富の差、言語、服装の違いを省いても 、みんなもっと大切な形で結ばれている。他人と違う事は君達の普通性を欠く事にはならない、ただちがう種類の普通の人になるだけだ。個性とは他人に押し付け られた理想からくるのではない。自分がなりたい自分になればいい。 Scars are ok, even emotional ones. It means the wounds have healed and you’re ok now. Maybe a little wiser. 傷は悪いものじゃない、たとえそれが心の傷であっても。残った傷は、それが治った事と君達がもう大丈夫で、ほんの少し賢くもなった証。 We’re beset on all sides from natural disasters, corrupt politicians, war, famine, disease, laziness, selfishness, greed and misery. The world is unpredictable, and no matter how much we try, we can’t hide from it,  even by living on an island. Life can be mean, but it isn’t about how hard life hits you. It’s about how much you […]

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Wisdom Inspirational and Motivational Quotes The English and Japanese version is here. Download: Wisdom PDF – English Download: Wisdom PDF – English & Japanese Our entire lives are spent trying to live better. We’re constantly searching for the secrets of life, those pieces of information that are the keys to living well. Life is a series of plateaus. We think we understand something, then we face new obstacles, and new challenges. In overcoming them, our understanding of ourselves and the world around us deepens. 私たちはより良い人生を過ごそうと頑張っています。私たちは常によい人生を送るための鍵となる情報や秘訣をいつも探しています。人生には階段がいくつもあります。私たちは何かを理解したと思うと新しい問題や挑戦に直面します。それらを乗り越える事で、私たちは自分自身と世界に対する理解を深めていきます。 There have been billions of people in history. Each life is different and special and contributes to the united human experience. Yet, there are many universal truths which we all share. Below is a small collection of this wisdom. Read it carefully. Read it many times. Read it again after time passes. Let it motivate and inspire you. The words here will help you become a better person. They will help you become more successful. They will help you achieve your dreams, and help you support the dreams of the people you care about. 歴史の中で何十億もの人が生きてきました。その一人一人の人生はユニークで、特別です。しかしそこには世界共通の真理があります。これは、その知恵を少しだけですが、集めたものです。しっかり、何度も読んでください。何年か経ったらまた読んでください。そして、モチベーションを上げ、ひらめきを得てください。ここにある言葉はあなたがより良い人になる手助けをしてくれます。あなたをより成功に近づけてくれます。あなたの夢を実現させ、あなたが大切に思う人たちの夢をサポートする手助けをしてくれます。 I AM A CHAMPION: You become strong when you choose not to be weak. 弱くならないと決めたその時からあなたは強くなる Repeat: I am my own greatest enemy. I am my own champion. 何度も言いなさい: 自分こそが自分の一番の敵である、自分こそが自分の擁護者である。 Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents, your past relationship, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument or your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make. あなたが行う全ての事はあなた自身の選択によって行われる。責任を負うべきは、親、過去の関係、仕事、経済や天気、口論、年令でもない。あなたの選択する事は、あなたただ一人の責任である。 All of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon, instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. – Dale Carnegie 我々は、今日すぐ窓の外に咲くバラは見ずに、地平線のはるか彼方にあろうバラの園を夢見て、人生を蔑ろにしているようだ。 Act enthusiastic and you will be enthusiastic. – Dale Carnegie 熱心に振る舞っていれば、熱心になる事が出来る。 Put enthusiasm into everything you do. – Dale Carnegie 自分が行う全ての事に熱中しなさい。 Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it. That is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear. – Dale Carnegie 自分が恐れる事をやって見る事、そしてし続ける事。それが着実に、一番早く恐怖心を乗り越える方法である。 Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right. 間違いを恐れるのではなく成功する事を考えなさい。 The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others in how you want to be treated. Don’t settle for anything other than respect. 自分に対する姿勢は、他人があなたに対する接し方を決める。尊敬以外には妥協してはいけない。 Say to others: If you don’t know something about me, then ask me. If you don’t agree with my choices, then argue with me. If you don’t like something about me, then talk to me. Don’t start judging me silently. 他人に言いなさい: 私について知らない事があれば聞いて下さい。私と意見が合わなければ、話し合いをして下さい。私についてイヤなところがあれば話してください。何も言わずに決めつけないで下さい。 Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Don’t think too badly about yourself for making mistakes. You’re going to make mistakes all the time, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes, find the cause of your problems, and overcome them. Don’t be disappointed if you’re not perfect. Just try to be an excellent example of a human being. – Tony Robbins 生きている間に人生を謳歌する事。経験をつむこと。自分を大切にして、友達も大切にする事。楽しんで、クレイジーになって、個性的になる事。間違いを恐れない事。誰でも間違いは犯すのだから、その過程を楽しめば良い。間違いはそこから学ぶ機会である、問題の根源を見つけ乗り越える事。完璧でない自分にガッカリしてはいけない。人間である事の素晴しい例になればよい。 Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. It empties today of its strength. – Corrie Ten Boom ただ心配する事は明日の問題を空っぽにしてはくれない。それはただ今日の力を空っぽにするだけ。 Do all the good you can, in all the ways you can, to all the people you can, in every place you can, all the time you can, as long as you can. 正しい事を、できる限りの方法で、できる限りの人達に、できる限りの場所で、できる限りの時間行いなさい。 Respect and trust are the two easiest things in life for someone to lose, and the hardest things to get back. Don’t risk losing them. 尊敬と信頼は一番失い易く、一番取り戻しにくいものである。失うリスクを負ってはいけない。 Life is too short to be anything but happy. So kiss slowly, love deeply and forgive quickly. Take chances, give everything, have no regrets and learn from the challenges in your past. Remember what they taught you. 人生は不幸せに過ごすには短過ぎる。ゆっくりキスをして、深く愛し、出来る限り早く許す事。チャンスをつかんで、全てを与え、後悔しない事。過去の難問から学びなさい。教えられた事を思い出しなさい。 Success isn’t always about ‘greatness’. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work gains success. Greatness will come. – Dwayne Johnson 成功とはいつも偉大なわけではない。それは一貫性である。常に一貫した努力は成功を生む。偉大さは後から生まれるものである。 Let’s stop complaining about our country and do something to make it better. Because, WE are our country. 自分の国に対して文句を言うのをやめ、良くする努力を始めよう、我々自身が国なのだから。 A strong person is not someone who doesn’t cry. A strong person cries, then gets up and fights again. 泣かない人が強いわけではない。強い人とは泣いた後に立ち上がって再び立ち向かう人達の事だ。 It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t. It’s that some people are ready to chance and others are not. – James Gordon 意志の強い人と弱い人がいるのではない。やってみようと思う人と思わない人がいるだけである。 No matter how ‘busy’ a person is, if they really care, they will always find the time for you. 人は、あなたを大切に思っていれば、どれだけ忙しくても時間をつくってくれるものである。   Always be willing to make an attitude adjustment. 態度を改める意志を常に持つこと。 Repeat in the mirror: I am my problem, but also my solution. 何度も自分に言い聞かせなさい: 自分自身が私の問題である、そしてその問題の解決法でもある。 It’s not enough to love the children, it is necessary that they are aware that they are loved. – St John Bosco 子供は愛されるだけでは十分ではない、その子が愛されていると知る事が必要である。 Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who really want to be together. いい関係はただ築かれるものではない。時間と忍耐と、一緒にいたいとお互いが思っている二人の人間によって築かれる。 I’ve failed over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed. – Michael Jordan 私は人生で何度も何度も失敗してきた、それによって今の成功がある。 What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. 今日することは大切な事のはず、なぜならそれは一日を代償に行う事だから。 Stand up for what is right, even if you’re standing alone! 正しい事をする為に立ち上がりなさい、たとえそれが一人きりであっても。 Haters don’t really hate you, they hate themselves, because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be. あなたを忌み嫌う人は本当は彼ら自身を忌み嫌っているのだ。なぜならあなたが彼等のなりたい自分だから。 This is your life. Do what you love and do it often. If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t like your job, quit it. If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be there when you start doing the things you love. Stop making excuses, your life is made up of your own choices. これはあなたの人生だ。自分がしたい事をしなさい。イヤな事は変えようとしなさい。自分の仕事がイヤならやめなさい。時間が足りないのであればテレビをみるのをやめなさい。真実の愛を探しているのなら、探すのをやめなさい。あなたが自分の愛する事を始めた時に、それは自然に現れるから。言い訳をするのをやめなさい、あなたの人生はあなたの選択によって作り上げられるのだから。 Open your mind, arms and heart to new things and people, because we are united in our differences. Ask the next person you see what their passion is, and share your inspiring dream with them. Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself. Some opportunities only come once, seize them. Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with […]

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Wisdom Inspirational and Motivational Quotes Our entire lives are spent trying to live better. We’re constantly searching for the secrets of life, those pieces of information that are the keys to living well. Life is a series of plateaus. We think we understand something, then we face new obstacles, and new challenges. In overcoming them, our understanding of ourselves and the world around us deepens. There have been billions of people in history. Each life is different and special and contributes to the united human experience. Yet, there are many universal truths which we all share. Below is a small collection of this wisdom. Read it carefully. Read it many times. Read it again after time passes. Let it motivate and inspire you. The words here will help you become a better person. They will help you become more successful. They will help you achieve your dreams, and help you support the dreams of the people you care about. I AM A CHAMPION: You become strong when you choose not to be weak. Repeat: I am my own greatest enemy. I am my own champion. Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents, your past relationship, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument or your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make. All of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon, instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. – Dale Carnegie Act enthusiastic and you will be enthusiastic. – Dale Carnegie Put enthusiasm into everything you do. – Dale Carnegie Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it. That is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear. – Dale Carnegie Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right. The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others in how you want to be treated. Don’t settle for anything other than respect. Say to others: If you don’t know something about me, then ask me. If you don’t agree with my choices, then argue with me. If you don’t like something about me, then talk to me. Don’t start judging me silently. Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Don’t think too badly about yourself for making mistakes. You’re going to make mistakes all the time, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes, find the cause of your problems, and overcome them. Don’t be disappointed if you’re not perfect. Just try to be an excellent example of a human being. – Tony Robbins Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. It empties today of its strength. – Corrie Ten Boom Do all the good you can, in all the ways you can, to all the people you can, in every place you can, all the time you can, as long as you can. Respect and trust are the two easiest things in life for someone to lose, and the hardest things to get back. Don’t risk losing them. Life is too short to be anything but happy. So kiss slowly, love deeply and forgive quickly. Take chances, give everything, have no regrets and learn from the challenges in your past. Remember what they taught you. Success isn’t always about ‘greatness’. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work gains success. Greatness will come. – Dwayne Johnson Let’s stop complaining about our country and do something to make it better. Because, WE are our country. A strong person is not someone who doesn’t cry. A strong person cries, then gets up and fights again. It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t. It’s that some people are ready to chance and others are not. – James Gordon No matter how ‘busy’ a person is, if they really care, they will always find the time for you.   Always be willing to make an attitude adjustment. Repeat in the mirror: I am my problem, but also my solution. It’s not enough to love the children, it is necessary that they are aware that they are loved. – St John Bosco Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who really want to be together. I’ve failed over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed. – Michael Jordan What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. Stand up for what is right, even if you’re standing alone! Haters don’t really hate you, they hate themselves, because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be. This is your life. Do what you love and do it often. If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t like your job, quit it. If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be there when you start doing the things you love. Stop making excuses, your life is made up of your own choices. Open your mind, arms and heart to new things and people, because we are united in our differences. Ask the next person you see what their passion is, and share your inspiring dream with them. Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself. Some opportunities only come once, seize them. Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them, so go out and start creating. Life is SHORT. Don’t wait, live your dreams and share your passions now. Always tell the truth. Use kind words. Keep your promises. Giggle and laugh. Be positive. Love one another. Always be grateful. Forgive. Try new things. Say please and thank you. […]

by Timothy Baril  Christmas isn’t always the stuff of dreams. Sometimes it falls rather short of our hopes. Maybe we’re without loved ones, or far from them this year. Maybe we’ve lost friends, or moved to a new city and don’t know anyone yet, or for whatever reason, just feel really alone this Christmas. Can you imagine what it’s like to wake up Christmas morning and have nothing under the tree? No one to share Christmas dinner with? It’s a heartbreaking feeling. Yet, not all Christmases were like this for us in the past. We know how good they can be, which is why, when a bad year comes around, it makes us appreciate just how good the holidays can be. A sad or lonely end to the year makes one reflect on the true meaning of Christmas. It’s an understanding that’s lost to so many of us, a holiday we sometimes take for granted. People often become too burned out from their daily lives, or overwhelmed by the demands of daily life which have nothing to do with Christmas. It’s easy for them to set aside this time of year and forget about it, or get negative about the holiday, especially when it gets too commercial. Or, we often just glaze over it, going through the motions without much reflection. A lot of people grow out of childhood and think that Christmas loses it’s magic, it’s appeal.  It’s just not ‘fun’ anymore. They think, Christmas used to be all about the excitement of getting presents, but when you’re old enough to buy things for yourself, the magic fades. This is all tragic, because it all happens when we simply fail to understand why Christmas is really the best time of the year.  true meaning of the holiday season makes Christmas so special and enduring, universal and timeless; makes it something we should never forget. We need to pull ourselves back from the commercialization and shopping, set aside the bustle of daily life, and focus on something more important. The meaning of Christmas is this: Christmas is about the Appreciation of Other People. Goodwill towards man; gestures of love and peace; presents and Christmas cards; charity donations; family gatherings; and Christmas parties – they’re all just a variety of different ways for us to say Thank You to each other. To say I Love You. The greater joy of the holiday comes from giving, not receiving. It’s saying, I just want to take a little time to show you how much you mean to me, and how much I appreciate you. I want to thank you for the time you’ve given me by taking a little of my time and giving back to you. You know how hearing all that from other people makes us feel amazing inside? That’s how we can make everyone else feel! Isn’t that wonderful? What an amazing opportunity that is. How do we give back? It might be by inviting people to a holiday event, and by accepting invitations to another’s event. Hosting, or attending, a Christmas party is a way of saying, I value you, and I want to spend the most precious time of the year with you. I want to celebrate our relationship, our friendship, our bonds, by being together at this special time. Now, we might see each other many times throughout the year, but at Christmas, the entire spirit of the season’s gatherings and exchanges are not just about having fun, or getting drunk or the food, or the games or any peripheral things. It’s foremost about people and relationships. It’s about giving of ourself.  often go shopping at Christmas like it’s some kind of chore. Or, recently, it’s become the fashion not to shop at all, not to give presents to very many friends or to donate to charities. People latch on to some excuse about not wanting to buy into the commercialism or they hate the crowds but that’s not really true, is it? It’s laziness. It’s a failure to properly value each other. It’s the very reason Christmas was created, and is needed – to battle very hopelessness and depression and negativity that routinely builds up inside us. A present is not just a present. When we give someone a present, it’s more than just picking some random thing up at the store, and going through the motions of a traditional exchange of things, this time with wrapping paper over them. A present has meaning. Do not give it lightly! It’s a symbol of our respect, friendship, family bonds, love and affection. We could write on the face of it: “Here, I thought of you, and I wanted to make you happy. I hope this present does just that. I hope it gives you a smile, or makes your life just a little easier, or a little nicer. I appreciate you.” The more someone means to us, perhaps the bigger or more expensive the gift, or, better, the more thoughtful. We can spend a fortune on the biggest, most expensive gift, but if doesn’t say anything about our relationship, or does nothing to make the recipient happy, it’s a waste. Let’s take a moment to think about our choices this year. Think about each one of our friends and family. Are we planning to get each one a gift? If so – great! If not, why? Don’t we appreciate them being in our life? Will we show our gratitude another way? Will we invite them to spend time with us? Will we plan something together? Will we call them up for no more reason than to say thank you and Merry Christmas?  Or are we not planning to make a special effort for the people in our life this year? Why? Are they not worth it? Not good people? Then why are they in our life? Or, what does it say about us that we aren’t the type of person to give back to those who have given of […]

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In following with The 6 People I Believe In idea (My 6 here), these are My 6 Friends with Dreams: Yukari Nail Salon Lien in Osaka, Japan Yukari, you’re so talented. Your nails are fun and beautiful. I really admire you for doing something you love, and having the courage to make a life from it. I really hope to see your art shine for many years to come. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Tina Bell Blog , GoodReads , Amazon I too hope to have published work some day. So, I have a particular soft spot for friends who write. It takes a lot of courage to put your work out there and have it judged. Some people will hate, others will love it. Be true to your vision, practice your craft, and never give up. Your work is better than you know and it will only improve with practice. You’re already a success. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Maki Hirota Graphics in Osaka, Japan Maki, you’re one of the smartest people I know. Anyone lucky enough to find you is going to have someone with a real sense of both beauty and the technical aspects of your craft. You chose to make your passion your business and your life. You’re amazing. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Kathryn Beals Landscape and other marvellous paintings. Studio in California, USA. Kathryn, only an artist with a heart as big and wonderful as yours could make paintings with the same. I love your work. As do the many, many people blessed to have come across you and been able to add your paintings to their lives. A professional painter – how amazing is that?! I can’t wait to see your future. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Maya A show dancer of amazing skill and beauty. It has been my privilege and my joy to watch you dance. Each and every time was a breathtaking experience. I have seen you overcome incredible challenges in your life. I have seen your skill level grow exponentially. I have see you put smiles on so many faces. You make the world a better place with your imagination, your art, your dedication and your optimism. You’re a great friend, and you’ll be the best wife and mother someday. You’re one of the best people I’ve ever met. I wish I could watch you dance every day. Whether it’s your career on stage, your personal life, whatever comes next, I know you’ll be a success. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Maro You’re a great dancer, but more than that, you’re a great person. You’re charming, incredibly funny and caring. It is so much fun to hang out with you. You make everyone happy. I know that in your dance career, as an entertainer, working in a museum or library, or wherever you are, you’ll be great at it. And I know that when you find your Prince Charming, you’ll be a fabulous Cinderella. ♥ ♥ ♥ To all of you, please know that I love you, and that I’m here for you, always. 🙂

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In following with The 6 People I Believe In idea, these are My 6: Philip You’ve grown up to become a really solid guy. You’ve grown stronger. Now you’ve got a wife and four kids who love you dearly and want to share your life with you. You’re fantastic about supporting your wife’s dream. Mom thinks the world of you and Gary and I both want you in our lives. That’s all pretty awesome. I do see cracks in you, waiting to be healed, waiting for you to become more your own person. I can see our old man in your body language, your speech patterns, the way you deal with things. I know because I saw it in him, and I saw them in myself before I tried to get rid of them. Right now we see things differently in his regard, and I’m sorry that we haven’t been able to speak about it yet, but know that I would love to sit down and just talk, anytime. Whatever the old man’s faults, mistakes, and weakness of character, I firmly believe that you do not have to repeat any of that. You are fully capable of being your own person and a complete success. Like all children, you are capable of surpassing the previous generation. If you continue to open yourself up and grow emotionally, challenge yourself with new ideas and deeds, you will continue to evolve and become a husband and parent that your family is proud of for the rest of your life. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Gary You are such a great guy, and you don’t even know it! You’re smarter than you think. You’ve got a great sense of humour. You’re honest, polite, considerate of others. If you took a chance to open yourself up and let other people in, I know you’d make some girl really happy. I have no doubt about that. You can take chances, let people get closer, just be yourself and people will show you how much they like you. I sincerely hope that you make your dream to go around the world a reality. It will change you for the better like nothing else. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Tomomi My words are not good enough to fully express how wonderful you are. My words seem so inadequate when I want to say how much you are worth the deepest trust and respect. You’re an angel, inside and out. So honest, so loving.  You’re the kind of woman that other girls should try to become. You’re a truly valued friend. You’re an amazing partner, and I have no doubt that you’ll be the most happy, loving and skilled mother. I’ve seen you make the most extraordinary dreams come true. I have seen you fight through the toughest times. You are stronger than you know. You are braver too. I can’t wait to see your next dream become reality. I believe in you. Always have, always will. ♥ ♥ ♥ Jeff I understand your heartbreak, my friend. I wouldn’t have wished what you’ve gone through on anyone. That said, I have seen you grow more from this experience than I saw for a long time before it. You have gained humility. You have gained perspective and wisdom. You have learned the value of precious things. I have no doubt that this has made you a better person. I would even go so far as to say that you needed this. That this growth will make you a better parent, and a better partner in the future. You can fall in love again. You can heal, you rise up and you can become vulnerable with someone else. You are capable of sharing your life again with another person, and you can have happiness again. You will make her happy too. You’re a great guy. You know the value of people. You know what’s important in a relationship. Please, don’t punish yourself, don’t hide away any longer. Your friends really miss you. And there’s a beautiful woman out there waiting to meet you, she just needs the chance. You’re ready to take back your life. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Seamus I have never looked at anyone else and seen so much of myself. And yet, I look up to you in many ways. You’re funny. You’ve got the ability to charm an entire room and you often do. You’re open minded, wicked smart, wise, athletic. You have the heart of a lion, and are as fearless as anyone I’ve ever met. You’re a model of virtue. You’re who other men aspire to become. Maybe you have yet to find your calling, your voice, and turn that passion into a career. But I have rarely seen anyone with as much raw potential and skills just waiting to be unleashed. I simply cannot imagine you ever being knocked down permanently in life. You’re a self-made champion, strong as an ox. When you find the ring you want to fight in, you’re going to succeed. No, you’re going to do more than that. You’ll thrive. I can’t wait to see where you take your future. I believe in you. ♥ ♥ ♥ Yuri You and I understand each other so well. When I look at you I see the person I once once. The one who didn’t believe in himself, with a hard family life, with heartbreak. But I have seen the real you too, and she’s not so far away. You’re not the delicate flower that you think you are. Just under the surface there is a brilliant, vivacious, elegant, fun, happy girl. When you let her out, she is a vision of loveliness. She is in control, she is resilient and strong, she is powerful. Only your self doubt stands in the way of you becoming all that you dream of, all that you already are and don’t even realize. You have survived so many things in life. You have learned so much. You are completely capable […]

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by Timothy Baril Life is an adventure in which we never stop growing. Well, we shouldn’t, but unfortunately, a lot of people do stop growing, or at least slow down considerably. Many of us get the wrong idea that the only time we really develop is in our school years, and the first short period of becoming ‘grown up’ in our early twenties. We spend almost the first two decades of life sheltered and forced to sit in front of chalkboards and TVs, taking in all sorts of information about the world and people, but getting little chance to see life itself in action. Once we hit some arbitrary age of majority, 18 or 21, we are finally rubber stamped with adult status and think the hard part is over. Enough hitting the books, it’s time to go put that stuff we learned into practice. These are the fun years of early adulthood. The glory days when we’ll do things that we’ll turn into stories we tell over and over again until we’re old and gray. College/university, our first jobs, our first forays into identity and sexuality. We drink too much, dream big, break the rules and for the first time we really get to enjoy life on our terms. It’s a time when we make mistakes and not only forgive ourselves for them, but relish those blunders and laugh along with our friends over them. What’s all this mess really about? Real Learning. It’s the experimentation and collection of real hands-on data that throws half of what we were spoon-fed in school out the window, verifies the other half, and provides us with knowledge that is actually useful. It’s the first time we shake hands with ‘reality’. And it’s a good period. For those of us who make the most of it, we really flesh out as people and start to gain our own strength and wisdom. But after a few years, it’s time for ‘careers’ and ‘families’. Time to ‘get serious’. We settle into routines which quickly develop into dry ruts. We don’t try so many new things any more. We don’t challenge ourselves to see what we’re made of because we’re too busy being frightened of losing the jobs we so desperately need in order to maintain respect from our peers, for our status, for putting food on the table for our loved ones, for paying all the gigantic bills we’ve accumulated. Life becomes the ‘daily grind’. “Sorry, too busy with my head down getting the routine done. Don’t have time to think about what I’m doing or why.” Learning slows down, even stops. We’re not creating the catalysts for real improvement because not enough changes in our lives. Sure, having a family presents challenges and spurs growth. But it’s not enough. We’re missing out on so many opportunities that could not only benefit ourselves, but which we could also reinvest in our marriage and children. There’s no limit to how strong and wise we can become, and no limit to how beneficial that is for everyone. But, sadly, because we don’t stop to think about what’s going on, we’re missing out. For many people, the years are now going to start drifting by. And the older we get, the faster time flies. Where did those last five years go? How did I gain ten kilos? When did my kids start being old enough to date? Since when did hair start growing HERE? What do you mean I need to start wearing diapers again? I thought I was done with those forever! We’re blindsided. Because we put ourselves on autopilot and stopped being in charge of how we’re living. The danger in doing that is that being on autopilot means we’re only going forward at the same level, the same speed, the same direction. We’re not growing. Without course corrections, we’re at the mercy of the winds and without realizing it, we may have plotted ourselves on course to crash and we won’t realize it until tragedy happens. Until the divorce hits. Until the heart attack. Until our kids have not only stopped loving us, but now won’t even speak to us. Until we realize there’s not a single delicious drop of coffee left in the whole house and now how the hell are we going to make our desperately needed morning caffeine in order to keep from becoming a total brain-dead zombie for the next four hours. What are we going to do now? What if we filter the empty packaging? Is chewing on yesterday’s grinds too desperate? If only we’d been more proactive, this murder-inducing coffee shortage never would have happened. “If I show up on the evening news tonight for whatever reason, it’s not my fault. The lack of coffee made me do it!” Autopilot means we’re not working towards our potential. We’re not being the best example we can be to our peers and families. When people see us on autopilot, not getting around to reducing our cholesterol, not getting around to painting the house, not getting around to learning how to communicate emotionally with our spouse, then they learn to be the same way. Human-monkey see, human-monkey do. That’s how culture happens. Culture is defined as the decisions we all generally make in our group. And right now, a lot of us are encouraging a culture of living on autopilot, cruising along well below our potential, and missing out on all kinds of benefits. How long until we all have a collective heart attack? How long until we’re all pulling yesterday’s coffee out of the trash, giving it a cursory rinse in the sink and then running it through the coffee machine again, hoping the grounds haven’t absorbed the myriad of week old decomposing flavours from the garbage? Look in the mirror. Wouldn’t it be great to feel less shitty sometimes? Wouldn’t it be nice like to look younger? To feel more energetic? To feel happier? Wouldn’t it be fantastic to have a better […]

fuck you

By Timothy Baril Dear Bad People, This is a letter to all the bad people in the world. The rude, the crude, the lazy, the ignorant, the selfish. The people who spread pain and suffering. You are all the people make the world harder for the rest of us.To all of you out there I want to say this: Fuck you. Fuck you to the people who smoke, spreading your stink and cancer-causing smoke in public and dragging down our health care systems. We’re sick of smelling like an ashtray because of you. Fuck you to all the corrupt politicians who think it’s a good idea to make smoking legal, when it’s scientifically proven to be harmful to everyone’s health. You knowingly let greedy businesses poison the public so you can harvest taxes from addicts. By your logic, as long as its taxed properly, we may as well legalize heroine and murder. Fuck you to the fat people who force stores to carry eighteen different sizes instead of eighteen different styles and place increasing burdens on our health care systems. You’re surrounded by information on how to live a healthy live, so ignorance is not an excuse. Being unhealthy is a choice. Fuck you to everyone who thinks they’re the exception to the rule, the one-in-a-million in order to not be responsible for their decisions. Odds are, you’re not an exception. You’re not allowed to blame rare genes until you’ve proven that the vegetables and exercise don’t work. Fuck you to everyone who is uncomfortable with the words Fuck You. Grow up. We should not be scared of words. Don’t want your kids to use fuck as every second word? Then teach them how to use it properly! Fuck you to all drunk drivers. Even you assholes who think one drink is ok. Killing someone because of your negligence is not ok. Fuck you to the thieves who take what they don’t earn and the murders who take what’s irreplaceable. This includes corporations and nations. Fuck you to the police who think enforcing the law is more important than thinking about what laws you’re enforcing. Are you someone else’s blind tool, a robot controlled by political corruption and greed? Or are you a member of our community whose first concern is the welfare of the people you’re supposed to be helping? Fuck you to all the bankers and financiers and stock traders and everyone else who creates so-called wealth out of nothing. Your currency wars, mortgage schemes, empty investments and illusionary economy are hurting all the people doing real work. Fuck you to the corporate profiteers seeking to take over education and raise us all to be mindless worker drones and consumer slaves. This is a system designed to create further wealth disparity, and that is totally wrong. Fuck you to the “one percent” and everyone else who thinks profit is a good word. The wealth disparity you create gives rise to most of our social ills. Nothing you can possibly do makes you deserve a thousand times more than anyone else. Profit = unequal. Fuck you to everyone who thinks the military is a good idea, from soldiers to the politicians who send them overseas. Your job is murder, and you profit from it. And every dollar spent on guns is a dollar less for education, health care and science. And the people that cheer them on, encouraging these people to invade other countries? I hope that happens to you some day. Fuck you to anyone who doesn’t believe in evolution. Fuck you to everyone spending more time with a television than with friends and family. Fuck you to everyone spending more time at work than with friends and family. Fuck you to rapists. And fuck you to all the unnecessarily paranoid women out there who lump all the great guys in the world with a few bad apples, and make them feel like shit. Fuck you to all the self-absorbed princess-types who think it’s the man’s responsibility to make them happy in life. And the women who think kids excuse obesity and that you never have to do your nails or hair again after marriage. Fuck you to all the guys who have beer guts and never learn to communicate emotionally. Why the hell aren’t you trying to become someone’s knight in shining armor or Prince Charming? Fuck you to all the parents who use their kids as an excuse. You should be ashamed of yourselves. Stop using your children as an excuse to not be with friends, to never exercise, to stop being involved with your community. Your friends are happy to hang out when your kids are around, and you’ve got other friends and family and babysitters to give you time off. They will help you. Stop trying to do everything by yourself. Fuck you to people who waste food. Fuck you to all the people genetically engineering our food, smothering the land in chemicals that poison the planet and all of your customers, monopolizing our agriculture and putting this basic necessity at risk. Fuck you to the politicians who care more about their publicity than getting things done for the right people and for the right reasons. Fuck you to the assholes hiding behind corporate masks who buy our politicians and manipulate our governments. Who care more about profits than people and our future. Fuck you to the CEOs and other executives with your golden handshakes and golden parachutes and golden fucking bathroom faucets in your fucking sixteen bedroom mansions. How about sharing that with all the good people doing the actual work in our companies? Fuck you to all the ignorant voters out there who eagerly swallow wholesale garbage about how to think and feel, never doing their civic duty to learn about issues or participate in politics. All those whose apathy and ignorance encourage our communities to rot. Fuck you to all the girls who slut-shame peers and to all you guys who […]

by Timothy Baril High self esteem is our judgement of what we’re worth as human beings, and how we feel about ourselves.   Nathaniel Branden in 1969 defined self-esteem as “the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and being worthy of happiness.” According to Branden, self-esteem is the sum of self-confidence (a feeling of personal capacity) and self-respect (a feeling of personal worth). It exists as a consequence of the implicit judgment that every person has of their ability to face life’s challenges, to understand and solve problems, and their right to achieve happiness, and be given respect.[7] (Wikipedia)   In our evaluation of our worth, our capability, our self respect, our integrity, what we’re essentially asking is “Do I believe in myself?”. The answer, for many of us, is No. THE PROBLEM Believing in ourselves is very difficult. Especially when we do it alone.     We can do it. We can come to understand and practice key timeless and universal values which produce a life of integrity. We can take on challenges, overcome them, and see what we’re made of. Those bring amazing self confidence, and in the long term this is the foundation of high self esteem. But sometimes that isn’t enough. Sometimes, in the short term, things become difficult and we doubt ourselves. At some point, even the strongest of us doubt ourselves. But the strong become successful because their long-term self esteem and the support of others are enough to encourage them to lift themselves out of despair, and remember to believe in themselves again. Their long term foundation is already in place. But for many of us, our daily lives are spent feeling like we’re drowning in despair, lost in a pool of depression that we can’t climb out of because we don’t like ourselves. We don’t think we’re good enough for anything. We could never achieve anything or become better at anything in life. We look in the mirror and see bad people. This is because we haven’t had others believing in us and encouraging us. We don’t know what to believe in. We don’t live lives of integrity. We haven’t accumulated a string of successes we can look back at and say “Hey, look at all the goals I’ve reached. If I can do that, I can do more.” Instead, we look back at our life and see nothing but goals unattained and we say “I can’t do anything. I’m a loser.”     So we just drift along, and our negative self esteem seems justified in every piece of bad luck, every failure that we’ve actually helped make happen because we’re sabotaging our own lives. When we don’t believe in ourselves, we start focusing on the ways things can’t happen, on the dead ends, on bandaid solutions instead of the roots of problems, on the obstacles in our way and by doing so we actually put ourselves on the path to encounter all those things. We actually want to fail, and reinforce our negative self image. We’re actively choosing defeat. We give up on living. But, if we believe in ourselves, know deep down that things really are possible for us, then we put ourselves on the right path. Will things still be difficult? Will challenges still arise? Absolutely. But our frame of mind will be completely different. This is when success becomes possible. This is when the journey becomes a happy one. Imagine looking down a hallway and needing to get to the other end. But in the middle is a wall, blocking us. If we have low self esteem, our attitude is defeatist. “It’s a dead end. I give up.” If we believe in ourselves, we smile and immediately start looking for ways through. “Ok, there’s a wall. No problem, I can deal with that. Let’s see… go around it? Over it? Can I break through it?” And we enjoy the process of reaching the goal. If we don’t believe in ourselves, we never find the solutions to our problems. Because we don’t even try. “What’s the point in trying? We’re just going to fail anyway.” But when we believe in ourselves, reaching our goals is simply finding the right way to get there. We know we’re getting there eventually, it’s a matter of learning how and getting it done. Unfortunately, waking up every morning and simply looking in the mirror and saying “From today, I believe in myself.” isn’t always going to be effective. Especially when we don’t already have a string of personal successes to remind ourselves what we’re capable of.     Believing in ourselves becomes much easier when someone else also believes in us. Positive evaluation by others increases our self-esteem. We realize that they see something in us that we don’t. They give us social recognition and emotional support. And when that happens, we believe ourselves capable of success, and worthy of becoming happy. And as we become more positive, it becomes easier for us to believe in others. It’s an amazing cycle. However, it’s all well and good that we know having people who believe in us will help us feel better about ourselves, but how do we make that happen? We feel alone. We probably couldn’t name, for certain, anyone who really and truly believed in us. Except for perhaps our parents, and not everyone has that. So we have a chicken and egg type problem. Which comes first? How can we start believing in ourselves if it feels like no-one believe in us? THE SOLUTION We have to focus on what we can control, and ignore what we can’t. We can’t control who supports us, who loves us, who believe in us. Those are other peoples’ choices. So let’s stop thinking about that right now. What can we control? We control whom we believe in. We choose the people we think are worth supporting. We choose the people we think deserve to be successful. We choose the people we think make […]

Girls reading books - education improvement

  The education system in many schools is not working hard to give students their best future. Within many schools and boards of education, the administrators and teachers are failing to do their best. There is a failure to understand what is being taught and why, and then to share that understanding with students. There is failure in understanding how best to teach, and in exploring to new methods. There is failure to set high standards and expectations, and then achieve them. Schools often seem resigned to mediocrity or worse, and we are not achieving our potential at all. Many educators treat their work as just a job, not a dream to be passionate about. They put their heads down, and try to get through the day without thinking about it and avoiding as much conflict as possible. That also means avoiding growth and responsibility. Some educators are afraid to challenge peers and the system in order to improve it, because they are afraid to cause trouble. In either case, the educators lose because they feel that they are not doing a job which is worthwhile and successful. More importantly, the students lose because their future is being limited by the adults around them. Every student has a lot of potential, but when the school fails to encourage the willpower and desire to learn, students become disengaged. When the school fails to encourage personal leadership and self control, the students behave badly. When the school fails to show students that what they are studying is important and why, the students won’t learn. When the school fails to encourage students to believe in themselves, the students give up on themselves. Second language education is an area that’s really under-achieving in many schools. These subjects cannot be removed from the rest of the school system, and in order to improve them, we must improve the systems they are a part of. Currently, schools are stagnating. The culture of the school as a whole system must improve in order to encourage growth and development. Only then can we focus effectively on individual subjects. In regards to second language education itself, I think that educators are ignoring a huge fundamental part of the language – Reading. Students rarely, maybe never, learn to read. For example, in Asia, students memorize English words like kanji characters. That’s inefficient. Students must be taught how to read and make the sounds for any word, even if it is new to them. This needs to happen at the same time we teach their first words. Students must be given free access to books. Why use books? The grammar in a book is often perfect, unlike spoken words. Native language speach is about 100 words per minute. Yet a good reader can do 400 words per minute. By reading, students get far more correct exposure to a language, and quickly improve vocabulary and grammar. They want to understand it, because the material in fiction is much more interesting than textbook examples. People love stories. By introducing books, you’re actually showing students where a foreign language exists, and giving them a reason to understand it. Native children’s books must be introduced into second language classes from the earliest lessons, with both reading aloud from the teacher, and reading alone. Without learning to read, and without having a reason to learn, students will never do any better than they do now. I also encourage educators to implement far more conversation in classes. Few people enjoy studying textbooks, but they do enjoy speaking to each other, and this native learning style is very popular. Include character building in lessons to make them more relevant and engaging. Don’t move on to new material until students understand old material at a high level. Use old material when introducing new material, so they don’t forget it. Encourage students to teach each other. Use long recitation exercises with recordings of native speakers to improve pronunciation. Challenge students and show them that you have high expectations for them and that you believe they can achieve those goals. When you have students who want to learn, give them the means to do so on their own. Don’t let them get bored while you’re focused on those who need more help. Make administrators, teachers and parents far more responsible for results. Education is the foundation of society. It’s the most important system we have. The years we spend as children are precious and shape who we will be for decades as adults. How we teach is often more important than what we’re teaching. We need to stop taking school for granted and realize that those years should be teaching us far more than reading and writing. They should be teaching us how to become the best people we can be, and encouraging our natural desire to become that. When that happens, students Want to learn the reading and writing parts. If we want to improve society, improve quality of life, improve our ability to not just survive as a community, but thrive as a leading member of the global community, we must have a deep desire to constantly improve our education system. That desire must be stronger than our laziness and our fear. It must conquer our xenophobia. We must engage the very qualities we wish to inspire in our youth. It’s all possible. More than that, it’s the best way forward. We can do this.

Sunshine

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